How important, asked BrainMind, is a good memory?
Of all the things that we possess, our memory's the very best
Bert was a pretty successful guy. He had a great wife, a couple of wonderful kids and a thriving law practice in West Los Angeles. But there was one thing that bugged him; he had the most difficult time remembering people's names. It wasn't everybody. He remembered his family of course, and he always remembered his clients. It was all the other people. Like the guy he played golf with that one time, or the couple he was introduced to at the party. He could remember everything about them, where they lived, what they did, how they looked, everything; except for their names. He was always able to get around it, which took more intelligence then remembering would have, but it bothered him a lot that he couldn't remember names. He knew he had a good memory. After all, he did pass the bar exam first time out, but this name thing really got him. When Bert heard about Alpha he thought, “This might be just the thing. If it can help me remember people's names then it will be the find of a lifetime.”
Bert closed his eyes, imagined his heart drifting up into his head and then went to a peaceful place. He imagined that he was snorkeling in the warm aquamarine waters of the Caribbean. Brilliant multi-colored fish swam by just inches out of reach. There was a wonderful sense of freedom that came with floating under the water. Then in Alpha, Bert asked himself a question. “Why has it been so difficult for me to remember people's names?” The answer came in a visualization. Bert saw himself going up to the front door of a lovely home that he recognized belonged to Ken, a good friend of his. When he knocked on the door, Ken opened it and said, “Bert, it's great to see you, come in, come in”. He walked Bert over to a group of four men and began to make introductions.
He said, “Bert, I want you to meet some other friends of mine, Bert I'd like you to meet, and then Ken rattled off four names. As he did this, Bert noticed that he wasn't paying attention to the names Ken was saying at all. All he was hearing, really loudly, in his mind was, “I'LL NEVER REMEMBER THEIR NAMES!” Bert woke himself up and thought about what he had seen. He realized that although he wasn't remembering names, it really wasn't his memory's fault. The names were never really getting into his memory bank because he was blocking them out. He was doing this by thinking with so much passion, and certainty, “I'LL NEVER REMEMBER THEIR NAMES!!!”
The next thing that Bert did was go back to Alpha, to his underwater peaceful place, to do another Alpha process. This time he imagined the same scenario with a different ending. This time when Ken introduced the four men, he listened very carefully to their names, and even imagined something silly to help him remember.
Ken said, “Bert, I'd like you to meet Bill, (Bert imagined “PAID” stamped on Bill's forehead), Frank, (Bert imagined Frank had a frankfurter for a nose), John (Bert imagined a toilet flush as one of John's ears), and Harry (Bert imagined Harry had hair growing all over his body). Bert then imagined saying to the four men, “Bill, Frank, John, Harry, so nice to meet you,” and then he imagined thinking, with great confidence “I KNOW I AM REMEMBERING THEIR NAMES!”
Next Bert imagined that it was some later date and he saw the four men at another occasion. He imagined walking right up to them and saying, “Bill, Frank, John, Harry, so nice to see you guys again.” Bert was proud of himself for remembering, and he knew that from then on, he would easily remember people's names. With few exceptions, he was right.
Perhaps the most valuable thing that we possess is our memory. It allows us to learn from our mistakes and thus enables us to continue to grow. Its contents help to dictate the attitudes and behaviors that we utilize when we face the world. Your long-term memory is perfect. It is the bank, the permanent storage house for all the information that you have ever paid attention to. There are things that come into short term memory (usually only seconds long) and never make it into long-term permanent storage. If information gets into long term memory, you have it forever. However, your recall of that information can mess up sometimes. The problem is in recall, not in memory. We remember millions of things for every one thing that we forget. There are an unlimited number of ways to remember things and there are only two possible ways to forget.
One way that we forget things is called the “tip-of-the-tongue” syndrome. In this situation, under pressure, the brain produces High Beta Waves and the filter closes down, and the information comes up and hits the filter.
The other way that we forget things is when we create a block to remembering. Often we do this by saying, “I have a terrible memory,.” and then agreeing with that suggestion. Blocks can be more specific such as, “I can never remember names” or “I'm terrible with dates.” We also create blocks by thinking, “History is boring,” or “Algebra puts me to sleep.”
We often blame our memory when it is not our memory's fault. You begin to leave a meeting, you walk to the door, and then you say, “Oh, I forgot my briefcase.” The truth is that you just remembered your briefcase, and really could have used the opportunity to say something positive about your memory. If we only pay attention to our memory when it fails, it is liable to fail just to get our attention. Compliment your memory at every opportunity. Whenever you remember anything difficult, or anything from a long time ago, make sure to say to yourself, “Good Memory”. Whenever you see someone else exhibit a great memory, compliment them and think, me too. Your memory improves each and every time you reinforce it. When someone else remembers to do something that you asked him to do, compliment him on their good memory. This reminds you that you have a wonderful memory too. We remember what we pay attention to. If, when we are introduced to people, make powerful associations, you are much more likely to remember the names.
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